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¬†One thing you’ll learn¬†¬† about me very quickly is ¬†that I have some pretty strong gut reactions, and I also like to think (and think, and overthink…)! ¬†If I stay balanced between both of these things, it helps me be a great reader; it means I trust my intuition, but I can ground it in the “real world”. ¬†But it also means that if something just doesn’t sit right with me, I have to sit around and figure out WHY. ¬†

More than once in the last few of days, I’ve stumbled upon some people playing up the “mysterious Tarot reader” image. ¬†I’ve read about how to dress up at a party and theme your outfit, to play up a “character” in order to provide an entertaining atmosphere. ¬†I’ve seen people advised to deliver their readings via cryptic messages to leave everyone wanting more – messages that, from what I could gather, have no actual value or use! ¬†And these are people who clearly know how to use the cards, and to set up more “legitimate” sessions.

Now, don’t go off and leave in a hurry. ¬†I’ve had a reading or two at parties myself, and I love Renaissance Faires. ¬†I know the Tarot can go in a hundred different directions, and I’m a huge Soapbox Sadie about no “right” way to work with the cards. So why was my first reaction to bristle and frown at the idea of Tarot for entertainment’s sake? ¬†Is it the idea of turning something I love, something I use for counseling and empowerment, into a gimmick? ¬†Is it the lack of respect Tarot already gets? ¬†(I got my fair share of ‘Madame Zelda’ jokes from my family when I started.) ¬†Is it that the typical ‘Gypsy fortune teller’ image is actually kind of racist against Romani people? ¬†Or do most people know the difference between fun at a party and the “deeper” uses of Tarot, and I should just lighten up?

I think it’s more than fine to add a little magick into the Tarot, whether you’re particularly witchy or not. ¬†All the magickal lodges and mystery schools have their secrets: the crown you wear when you’re at a certain level, the slightly spooky initiation on a dark night of symbolic rebirth. ¬†That’s because we’re drawn to theatricality, to mystery. ¬†We like being the heroes of our own stories. ¬†Putting on a show for ourselves makes everything a little more meaningful, and the Tarot is no different. ¬†But (and there’s always a “but”)…

I’ll never forget how during one of my first readings, all I had to say was ‘you’ve had a loss’ and the sitter burst into tears. ¬†She could have lost a job, an argument, a toothbrush. ¬†But she’d lost her husband, and those fifteen minutes she’d purchased turned into a session about grief, support systems, and her new normal. ¬†The cards have an uncanny knack for hitting the truth, bringing up what a person needs to think about, and making us take a good hard look at ourselves even when we don’t mean to. ¬†Scary? ¬†Sometimes. ¬†Necessary? ¬†Absolutely. ¬†And only dangerous if you don’t want to be a happier, more secure and self-aware person – which is what it’s a good reader’s job to help you do.

Have fun with the cards, and maybe costumes have their place if they’re not messing with someone’s culture. ¬†At Halloween and Camelot Days, I’ll be right there with you in the ironic witch’s hat. ¬†Not every reading is a huge soul-baring session, and a party isn’t really the place for it anyway. ¬†But the Tarot deserves respect, and so do the people you’re reading for. ¬†If someone is frightened or upset when you’re throwing out mystic-sounding nonsense, or disrespects counselors and lightworkers because you’re putting on too much of a show, that’s doing a disservice, no matter how small. ¬†I’m not an authority to be throwing out edicts and rules, no one is, but I know what pings my radar and my gut, and all I can think is: being the “life of the party” will probably make you more mainstream, but it pays to be careful.

Another thing you’ll learn pretty quickly: I’m always game to talk (and talk and talk) about it, even if you totally disagree – respectfully, of course. ¬†Leave a comment and tell me what you think!